before you know

[puppygirlcity]

gay kids who don't know what being gay is are still gay before they realize!

so i think the same applies to trans women it just gets complicated because gender is like a construct and sex is a construct and some of us are nonbinary or we are women in nontraditional ways like being butch or whatever so we don't know!

but if you are a trans woman or transfem or or or your experience growing up was a transfem experience

transfems are often put into the position of proving our womanhood by describing how we were traumatized pre transition and like those experiences are awful, i think it sucks that are put into this position where we feel like we have to prove we are our genders by describing trauma

but like sometimes it makes me feel like "well i didn't experience some of these things am i not transfem no no because my experience was a transfem experience by virtue of my being transfem, trans women don't have to go through trauma to be ourselves and in a perfect world we wouldn't be traumatized at all and we would still be ourselves

i know that before i knew i was a girl and of course girls who are forced into acting like boys might try to act like how they are told they should! unknowingly unknowingly before we know but that doesn't mean we are boys because we aren't, or at least it doesn't mean we are cis.

if you imagine a cis woman being put into that situation of course she would act different and of course we act different because we are put into this society that threatens us with violence for not acting how we are expected but we are still wwomen and girls and transfems