the way trans people who are not transfem talk about us and group us in as being "male" and like just use amab and afab as a replacement for male and female and like just talk about us like we are an after thought idk
like even friends i have will still do this and i dont feel safe trying to push back against it
like one time the discussion of mens nipples came up and this resulted in "at least afab nips are cute" and then just as an afterthought "Transfem nips are cute too" but this was followed up by "I wish i was transfem" by a tme trans person and like no you fucking dont?
it feels very fetishistic and makes me feel really bad like our bodies are third sexed and elements that make us dysphoric are fetishized by tme trans people because they want a penis or facial hair or any other elements of our bodies that serve to other and third sex us so we are fetishized by other non transfem trans people who refuse to listen to our actual voices and its disgusting
like even friends i have will still do this and i dont feel safe trying to push back against it
like one time the discussion of mens nipples came up and this resulted in "at least afab nips are cute" and then just as an afterthought "Transfem nips are cute too" but this was followed up by "I wish i was transfem" by a tme trans person and like no you fucking dont?
it feels very fetishistic and makes me feel really bad like our bodies are third sexed and elements that make us dysphoric are fetishized by tme trans people because they want a penis or facial hair or any other elements of our bodies that serve to other and third sex us so we are fetishized by other non transfem trans people who refuse to listen to our actual voices and its disgusting